When you think about pregnancy, you think about the joy and excitement a woman feels when she learns there's a new life growing within her. You also think of the deep thoughts of what it will be like to be a mom for the first time. All of the emotion of becoming a parent can be exciting and the unknown overwhelming.
I remember what I felt when I found out we were expecting our fourth baby. I was so excited knowing I had so much more love to give. My husband, 3 daughters and I were ready for a new little one. I called my OBGYN to set my first appointment. I knew the ropes and that they wanted to see me no sooner than 8 weeks after the last menstrual period.
Finally, it was time for my appointment I was so happy to see my doctor. My hubby was with me as he was with our daughters. We were so ready for the sonogram and see our tiny little person in his or her early stage of life. When the nurse called me to get my weight and vitals, she sent me back to the dim;y lit sonogram room. I remember laying down on the table to wait for my doctor. I remember my husband and I laughing and talking. We jokingly talked whether we were having a boy or a girl. We didn't really have any expectations either way. We already had 3 girls, lol.
When my doctor entered she was just as excited to see us. As she placed that warm jelly on my lower abdominal area above my uterus, we all talked, laughed, etc. My doctor is so kind and personable. Finally, the moment we were waiting for; the doctor began to glide the sono wand over me and the tiny image of what my little one currently looked like. I could only smile until my doctor had a look of concentration on her face. It was the look you get when someone or something you're looking for cannot be found. She then asked if I was sure about my dates. I told her I was positive. She said sometimes when the dates are off even by a little bit, the heartbeat can't be seen. I was somewhat concerned, but thought that perhaps something was off, but I was pretty certain about my dates because I kept a record. She told me to reschedule in a couple of weeks for another sonogram.
Though I kept fairly busy and had a mostly positive outlook, the what-ifs were there in the back of my mind. So, the follow up appointment had arrived and I, once again, was ready. I remember we didn't have much of a wait after I signed in. Once again, on the table, hubby is right beside me holding my hand this time. He knew I needed that. The doctor walks in, she is still conversational, but it's quick to business this time. More jelly and checking for the heartbeat and more concentration and I could see there was not life. I just stared at my husband not believing any of this was real. My doctors words, as she became choked up, explaining my options, are like whispers now. All I know, is that I chose for everything to take place naturally, I didn't want a D&C only because I knew the complications and even after learning I was losing my baby, I wanted to have the option of possibly becoming pregnant again later on.
What I experienced emotionally and Spiritually:
Blaming myself. I wandered if it was something I did. Did I eat something bad, should I have avoided pain reliever and just let that headache run its course?
Final realization. It was out of my control. It wasn't about me. It was all about bringing glory to the name of God and helping others who may go through this.
What I experienced physically:
Light spotting. The spotting started off a tan color and turned pink to red.
Cramping & Heavy Bleeding. The cramps are a lot worse than period cramps, but are more like contraction pains. The bleeding is very heavy and my doctor told me to watch for how fast I soaked up 1 or 2 pads withing a certain amount of time. Losing blood too quickly is serious. My husband was very watchful over me during this time.
I think of this baby often, even after 8 years. This is a baby I was never able to hold, but I'm comforted in knowing he or she is in really good hands.
If any of you have ever had a miscarriage, I hope you have a great support system: your family, your church, good friends, etc. Most importantly, know that you are not alone. Yes, it hurts so bad, but you are not alone! Also, remember to be there for someone else. Someone may need to be near someone who's been there and understands what they are going through or have gone through.
I hope that this post will help someone somewhere. I want you to know that though it may seem like the pain will never go away, you will always miss your little one, but the pain eventually turns into strength. That strength is not just for you, but for someone who may need to lean on you until they are strong enough to hold someone else up too.
I love a good fish taco, don't you? The best fish tacos I've eaten, so far, are the ones I had at a restaurant called Rockfish! My world was rocked when I had that first bite. I loved the way they fried the fish and I loved the sauce they had on their tacos. However, it's been years since I've been back to this restaurant and I don't know if they still exist. However, whenever I buy fish tacos I compare them to Rockfish. There are just times I think back to those tacos and I just get a taste for them. Well, I recently starting thinking about fish tacos and this time I decided to make them myself.
When it comes to making things myself, I tend to do things the way my tummy and my mind tells me to, lol. I decided not to bread the fish or use a batter. I just wanted a nice layer of seasonings to enhance this fish and the taco itself. In order to put this all together, I needed to start off with some great fish.
I found this pack of Pollock at my local walmart. The great thing about this fish is that it's already cut into chunks, which is the perfect size for placing inside of a tortilla. For my family of six it took two of these 16 oz. packages to feed each of us. I let them thaw. After the fish has thawed midway, I get my pan ready by putting some olive oil and a two pats of butter in it so that all I have to do is turn on the heat once the fish is fully thawed. You will also want to prepare a slightly oiled skillet for your corn or flour tortillas. I use this time to get my sauce ready as well, so that once the fish is done, it's all about the fixins', lol.
1 C Mayonaise
1/4 C Ketchup (or more if you want a sweeter flavor)
2 tsp Soy Sauce
3 tsp Worcestershire Sauce
2 TB of minced garlic (more or less to taste)
Salt (to taste)
Pepper (to taste)
2 TB Freeze Dried Chives (I used McCormick)
2 TB Dried Cilantro Leaves (I used McCormick)
Place mayo, ketchup, soy sauce and Worcestershire sauce in a small to medium bowl and stir until all ingredients are fully combined and consistency is creamy. Then add the minced garlic and stir until evenly blended. Add a pinch of salt and pepper. Taste and decide if more is needed. Add the dried chives and cilantro, stir in completely. Cover bowl with a lid or plastic wrap and refrigerate until it's time to use on the tacos.
* Although I haven't done it yet, I have a feeling this sauce would work on a lot of other meats, pork, chicken or other fish. Now my wheels are turning, lol.
Once the fish has thawed, heat your oiled pan to medium/medium high heat.. Rinse your thawed fish and dry as best as you can. You can place the raw fish in a bowl or on a plate to season. I prefer a bowl.
1TB (approx.) Salsa & Pico seasoning (I used Penzeys, I believe they have a website) I added more, but I love the full flavor of this seasoning. I made sure each piece of fish had seasoning on it. This seasoning also has a mild kick to it.
Salt (to taste)
Cayenne (optional) to taste
Black pepper (to taste)
1tsp Garlic Powder
1tsp Onion Powder
Cook your fish until seasoning is nicely golden and fish is flaky. You will need to turn the fish over probably after 2-3 minutes of cooking. Mine was fully cooked within approximately 6 minutes. Everyone's stove and heating is different, so don't walk away.
Now it's time to heat the tortillas. We love these white corn tortillas from our local Mexican market. I tend to heat mine on a medium high heat, but only when I know I won't be distracted (I should never do this). So, on medium heat, in a lightly oiled skillet, I heat each tortilla for about 2 minutes on both sides. I like mine to be a little crispy, but still bendy, so I'll heat mine a little longer. Once all of the tortillas are heated, I start building each taco. My family loves top our fish with a shredded cabbage and carrot salad blend. We put the sauce over the over the salad and add cheese. Cheese is, of course, optional for you, but not for us, lol.
If you've never tried a fish taco, It would be awesome if this is your first one and you LOVE it! I can tell you my family was happy while eating them and very satisfied when they were gone. Well, my son asked for another one, not because he was hungry but because they were so-ooo good. Those were his words. He's always so thankful for food, lol, but he doesn't always ask for seconds.
Thank you so much for stopping by. I'm so thankful that you did. Have an awesome weekend!
There are so many ways to meet someone to date. You have actual dating services online, speed dating and for those who are in a real hurry to meet Mr. Right, there's the show "Love At First Sight." At what limits are you willing to go to meet the right person? I want to share a bit of my single days with you, how I finally met my "Mr. Right" and my advice according to what worked for me.
In my early twenties I was absolutely consumed with meeting the right guy, getting married and having babies. It was all I thought about. When I went to the grocery store, the mall, out to eat with friends, etc., I'd wonder if that was the place I'd meet him. It sounds ridiculous, but it's the truth and I'm certain I'm not alone. I'd date here and there, but there was nothing promising within those dates. This went on for some time. It became frustrating. I began to question myself by wondering if I were too picky. I did have a list of things I wanted in a man and didn't stray from the important things. I wanted a Godly man who loved Jesus more than himself or anyone else, even me. I didn't want a lazy man because there's just nothing good about that and I also wanted him to want a family. These are just a few of the things I had on my list. I believe this list was my saving grace and kept me focused on the important things.
After a while, I got tired of dating. I'd graduated from college and started my career and was loving it. I was going different places, I traveled and just really enjoyed "myself". Though, I still wanted to be married, it wasn't top priority in my thoughts. I even prayed to the Lord that if it wasn't His will for me to get married, change my desire. I knew marriage wasn't for everyone when I prayed this and the way everything had gone, I'd rather be single than with the wrong man. I wanted to be happy in a marriage and divorce was not an option for an easy out when things went wrong. So, I was no longer searching and no longer actively caring like I did before. Don't get me wrong, I still wanted to get married, but it didn't consume me.
Not to bore you with all of the details, several years later I married my college sweetheart. Wait, what!!? I know, I know (we may cover that story in another post). I will say this; sometimes, things are not meant to happen when you want them to or think they should. However, in saying that, if you are looking for love, marriage and babies, lol, here's what worked for me.
1. Stop looking! Patience is key. Sometimes when you always looking for someone or something, it's easy to settle. I look back at some of the guys I dated and know I should have declined the date. They weren't bad guys (that type wasn't my thing), but they weren't right for me even as a date.
2. Love yourself! Enjoy being with you, doing the things you enjoy. If you don't really know what you're into this would be the time to get into hobbies. If you don't know who you are and what you want, getting into a serious relationship may not be a good thing.
3. Know what you really want in a man and what you don't. Make that list, girl! If you love Jesus, you don't want to get with a man who doesn't love or believe in Him. The list can keep you focused on the imporant things and less shallow. It will be harder to settle when you know what you want. Marriage is a commitment and it's too serious to take lightly.
4. Have self respect. I don't care what magazines, talk shows or reality tv tells you/portrays; how you carry yourself and how you dress will determine who you attract. Carry yourself like you're a diamond and you will be treated like one. Dress the way you carry yourself. You don't have to show off your assets (if you know what I mean). I'm not saying you need to dress like the women on 'Little House On The Prairie', but you don't need to show the goods to catch a man. Now, there will forever be jerks in the world, but you don't want to be a magnet to all of them. I promise you; self respect, self respect, self respect.
If you're looking for "The One", "Mr. Right" or the "Love Of Your Life" and what you've been doing hasn't been going well, I hope that the things that worked for me will help and give you a few things to think about and consider. Everyone has there own love story, so always be willing to share what worked for you with others. I'd love to hear your thoughts and your stories, so feel free to leave a comment.
Thank you so much for visiting me here. I really appreciate it!
It's just something about Valentine's Day that makes us want to go all out, especially when it comes to preparing for that date night with our husband or boyfriend. That's fine, but you don't always have to do that with your makeup. It can be simply done, but look so beautiful and elegant at the same time. Sometimes with makeup doing a little can have a bigger impact. Also, with most men, when you don't wear as much makeup it makes you appear more confident and because of that, more attractive.
On my eyes, I combined a light and medium pink eyeshadow right above the lid. Above the outer side of the upper lid and onto the outer corner of the lid, I added a burgundy shade of eyeshadow. I blend each shadow in as I go so that the shadows appear seamless. On the mid portion of my lid and all the way to the inner corner I added a bronze shade, and this shade just adds a gorgeous focal point to this look. I added a black eye liner onto the upper and lower waterline of my eyes. I then took the light pink eyeshadow on a thin makeup brush and blended it onto my lower lash line. I added the medium pink and did the same as with the lighter pink. With the burgundy shadow I only added it to the outer corner to combine with the makeup on the upper lid and blended out to the mid portion of my lower lash line. I added a very natural looking, light weight, thin banned false lash to my eyes, but this is very optional. A good black eyeliner on both top and bottom lashes can create a similar result. I used a black mascara for my lower lash to complete the eye look.
On my face, I used a powder foundation. I lightly contoured my jaw line, cheekbones and forehead and blended it all out. Then I used a rose colored blush on my cheeks to give a very natural finish. I added a champagne colored highlight to my upper cheek bones, the bridge and tip of my nose, as well as my upper lip area (cupids bow) and the mid portion of my forehead. This gives a subtle, yet natural glow to my skin.
For my lips, I combined a dark brown and a pink lip liner to outline my lips. I filled them in lightly with both lip liners and used a rose colored lipstick to complete my lips.
Products Used: Tarteist Pro Palette (chic, mod & drama), Revolution Vivid Baked Bronzer (for lids), Loreal Pencil Perfect Eyeliner in Carbon Black, Evoke Lashes in style Chris, MAC False Lash Extreme Black mascara, MAC Studio Fix Powder Foundation in NC43, Wet N Wild Baton De Maquillage Contour in #805 Call Me Maple,Milani Rose D'Oro Baked Blush, Colourpop Super Cheek in Flexitarian
If you've been looking for a simpler and gorgeous approach to your Valentines Day look this year, then I hope this ends your search. Thanks for stopping by! I truly appreciate it.
It's easy to have goals, but it can be a bit tricky to achieve them depending on what they are and if they're long term or short term. I have 5 ways that have worked for me even when road blocks occur.
1. Why is your particular goal important to you? What is the reason you want to accomplish it? The reason behind it can either keep you focused and motivated to keep pushing toward it or cause you to lose interest altogether.
2. Pick out the goal that makes the most sense. Knowing where to start is key. Some goals can't be completed until several smaller ones are achieved.
3. Plan a strategy for how this goal will be completed and a realistic time period. You can do this by keeping a journal of steps you plan to take for each strategy. Be aware that some steps may go faster or slower that expected, but having that list will keep you prepared on what comes next when it's time.
4. Find ways to keep yourself inspired and motivated through challenging times when the unexpected occurs. It can be easy to throw in the towel and just say "Forget it!" during a rough patch. You can keep up with people who have successfully achieved goals similar to yours. Connect with them on social media. Watch videos where people share how they accomplished their goals despite the curve balls that came their way.
5. Surround yourself with positive/realistic individuals. You need people in your life who will encourage you to work hard and do your best, but also help you stay level headed and realistic with your goals. So, be a good listener and open to those who are looking out for your best interest. They may be the ones who can possibly give you a different/better approach on how to achieve your goals.
I hope this gave you another point of view on how to achieve your goals what. It's never easy to wait on something you want so badly, but oh how sweet the reward is when you see how all of your patience and hard work has paid off.
Thanks so much for spending a little bit of your time here. I really appreciate it!
If you've been telling yourself, "I'll never get out from under my bills" or I'll never be debt free; STOP IT! When my husband and I first got married, were in debt with school loans and credit cards. Not too long after we married, we had a medical emergency and of course there was another bill to add to the mix. Talk about overwhelming. OMG, it felt like falling into a dark hole where there is no light to lead you out of it. For me, being in debt is the worse feeling I've ever felt and I'm certain my husband felt the same way. I can honestly say, that we weren't living life freely the way everyone should live.
After several years, the church we were members of at that time offered a class called "Financial Peace University." My husband and I knew we needed help and something needed to be done financially. We knew we just couldn't keep living this way. Though we knew we needed to do something, we had our reservations about this class. Would it really help us with the mess we put ourselves in; how much of our mess would we have to talk about, etc. Despite all of our reservations, the need to take care of our situation became more important. We signed up for the class, and without a doubt made one of the best decisions of our lives.
Dave Ramsey is the creator of Financial Peace University. He's a well known financial advisor and author. When it comes down to it, his program just makes total sense. In this program, you learn how to get out of debt and how to save money at the same time. You learn to continuously add to that savings and keep building it (he calls it the emergency fund) up, so if there is an emergency, you're ready financially. This course teaches you how to get out of financial stress and move into a comfortable, peaceful financial situation. You also learn the best order in which to pay your bills.
This course isn't rocket science and having this tool to take you step by step to lower your debt is so powerful. It definitely can take time depending on your level of debt. The most important thing is to start. Don't go another year going further into the pit hole that debt is.
What I learned from "Financial Peace University":
1. I don't apply for credit cards - It's so easy to get sucked into a new credit card especially while shopping. "You can get 15% or 20% off your perchase. I just say "Thank you, but "No" thank you!"
2. I don't buy whatever I want, even if I can afford it. Sometimes I just tell myself, "Not today." One reason for this is that it really stops me from getting things I might not actually use and it also is an example to what I always tell my kids, "If it's meant for you to have, it'll be there."
3. Be ready to give. Having money isn't all about me or my family, so it's important to be ready to give and help others all year long. We know we can't help everyone, but we want to be prepared for whoever God calls us to assist.
Are we completely debt free, nope, but we're in control and have gotten down to just a few major things. We're continuously saving, paying things on time and feeling so blessed to be able to do so. If you're carrying the weight of your debts and are looking for a way to live life the way it should be lived, head over to www.daveramsey.com That program will guide you to that light at the end of the tunnel. Though, there are other financial programs out there, I can only vouch for what worked for us. My point is to find something you feel comfortable using and get it going. 2018 has just begun, so it's the perfect time to attack your debt in an easy to follow format, learn to be smart with your money and ultimately live a life that's debt free. You can do it!!!!
I can't say enough about how fast this year has gone by. 2017 has truly had its ups and downs. However, I am thankful for all of it. As a family and life in general, we've had the unexpected to arise. We've had cancer to affect our family. It's never that you don't believe it can happen, it's just that it happened and there's absolutely nothing you can do, but be there for your loved one and pray that the cancer leaves their body. In our case there was a happy ending and my family member is now in remission. My prayer now is that the cancer doesn't return.
I wasn't expecting to have to take a break from YouTube, but it happened. I believe it was a blessing in disguise because I've been able to evaluate what direction I want to take with it and it's been a refreshing time. I've very excited for my future with YouTube. I've been able to develop my brand through Instagram and learning from my favorite blogger, Marianna Hewitt. If you don't already know, she started a new Instagram page called "Blog With Me" this year to help anyone who wants to be a blogger and grow their Instagram page. Marianna answers a lot of questions and gives such wise advice. So visit her page and I'm sure that you'll find information you didn't know you needed.
I appreciate all of the brands I've tried and learned about this year and I'm happy to have this blogging platform to share it on, as well as Instagram. What I am most thrilled about this year is how much I've grown and come out of my social media shell. Being vulnerable does help to get you out of your comfort zone and it is something I'd recommend to anyone who wants to brand themselves in social media. You have to allow yourself to be a little vulnerable. Step out and try something new, whether it's food related, traveling to new location or a new form of fashion (ie. trying a color/pattern you're not use to wearing). Obviously, this is all within reason; don't break the bank, save for the things you can't afford. You know, use your own discretion.
My main goal in 2018 is to do better than I did in 2017. I want to continue meeting my goals, self-evaluate often, grow my brand and help others along the way. I would love to travel to places I've never been and not just read about the brands, but actually go and meet the owners ( the heart of the brand). If others can do what they do well, then why can't you and I? All it takes is hard work, dedication and determination. I want to remember to take time for fun and enjoy the life around me. It's so easy, in the midst of working hard, to forget to enjoy things, take a break and let go of the serious for a little while. When it's time to hit the grind again, you're ready and refreshed. There are several bloggers I'd love to collaborate with and will communicate that with them. There are brands I'd love to work with as well and will be reaching out to them.
There are more brands I want to try and several repurchase items I don't want to live without. I will be sharing those things with you and what works for me in detail. I want to branch out of my comfort zone a bit more in 2018 and continue to push past fears.
Below are the important things I'm encouraging myself to do and share with you. When it comes down to it life is way to short, so enjoy it.
Thank you so much for visiting me here! I've appreciated each of you this year. Merry Christmas and a blessed New to you and yours!