Besides wedding anniversaries or dating anniversaries, Valentine's Day has become "The Day" of romance and celebrating love. It seems to be an unspoken rule that the more money you spend on someone, the more love you show. Whatever happened to, "it's the thought that counts?" Whatever happened to spontaneous romance? It doesn't matter what commercials, magazines, etc., try to sell and portray what they want us to believe. It's about knowing what you and your significant other enjoy doing together. Sometimes it can be trying something you both have never done before, but keeping it intimate to allow yourselves moments to reflect on and enhance what attracted you to each other to begin with. More importantly, it doesn't have to just be once or twice a year, but often. I want to share a few ideas to keep love alive and keep it spicy!
If you're married with kids, you know, it can be a little tricky to be romantic. OK, let's keep it really it's totally challenging to be romantic and have alone time. Let's face it, just when you think you have that moment, you don't... There always seems to be interruptions that might be important or not. What do you do? Do you both just sigh and agree "It is what it is"? If your kids are in school, take off work on a week day to enjoy each other.
1. Go catch a movie. Sometimes, depending on the time and day of the week, you both can have the feel of having a private movie.
Set up a weekend get-away or staycation in advance. Set up arrangements with family and friends you trust, if you have kids, to care for them in your home or theirs'.
1. Book a hotel, bed and breakfast or create a romantic atmosphere in your home bedroom. Make sure you bring/have all the essentials you need and want with you, including food/snacks/drinks. So, if you choose, you never have to leave your room....Wink. Wink. It's all about enjoying each other with no interruptions.
Before there were pager, cell phones, laptops, etc., there was pen and paper. It's always nice to get unexpected written notes of affection. Put them in their briefcase, luggage or on their night stand before you leave for work.
1. Give your sweetheart a cute card that says exactly how you feel about them. We're not all gifted poets, but buying the perfect card for our love almost allows us to take the credit.
2. Write a love letter. It doesn't have to be fancy or long. It only needs to say why you love him or her, how they make you feel when you're with them and when they're away, how you long for their return.
One of the most romantic things my hubby and I have done is cook. We both love it and when we get the chance to this time in the kitchen, it's so much fun. Yep, cooking is work, but if you're talking, laughing and sampling the food, the process is so much better. I love to offer little bites with him and I love it when he offers me some of the food he's preparing. I'm always there to give my expert opinion. Haha. On a serious note, with all of the cooking kits that are available to order, we can all cook a delicious meal with our special someone.
1. Cook and share a meal together. Set the table and dim the lights. Light some candles and play some nice romantic music. The mood has been set and when the food is ready, look into each others' eyes with every bite. Enjoy the food and each other.
There are so many ways to keep romance high with your significant other. It takes work. It takes you getting out of your rut. Romance is a choice you both have to make to keep your relationship healthy, interesting and fun. It also keeps you looking forward to more of it. I hope the ideas mentioned here has sparked you to get romance back in your relationship or given you a new idea that keeps your already romantic relationship going. Also, if you have additional suggestions, please comment below. It will definitely help others.
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Oh, what a mystery love is! What is true love? How do you find it? How do you know you really have it? The most important question is how do you get it to last once you have it. This is so rarely asked and when it is asked, the relationship is already in trouble. The reason for this is because society has taught us this: if things don't go "my" way, if it doesn't make "me" happy, if "I'm" not happy, then "I" can walk away. This is taught especially with marriage. Fighting for marriage is almost a thing of the past. Before I go any deeper, I want to give this disclaimer: There are legitimate reasons for divorce when it comes to marriage, but let's stay on topic.
So, what is love? I Corinthians 13:4-7 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not dishonor evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
Most of us looking for love are ready to be loved because of how good it makes us feel! Being loved feels awesome. Don't you agree? However, many are not ready to love according to its' true meaning, as described above. The above shows true love is not easy to give. It is selfless. Being selfless means putting our wants and needs aside to meet someone else's. True love is not about ourselves, but about others. It means giving without expecting anything in return. It means allowing a person to love in their own way and not getting angry when they don't meet our expectations. When our spouse, boyfriend, fiance', makes a mistake or does something we don't like, be quick to forgive and don't bring it back up every time something similar comes up. The ability to love selflessly is a daily challenge that needs to be practiced and lived out daily. I'm preaching to myself too, y'all. If we remind ourselves that we are not perfect, we each make mistakes and we say and do things that our spouse, etc. may not like, then we can love them freely as well as others around us in the way we are meant to. If you do this and you have found someone who loves you unconditionally; you both have true love. This is the love that lasts.
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