Oh, what a mystery love is! What is true love? How do you find it? How do you know you really have it? The most important question is how do you get it to last once you have it. This is so rarely asked and when it is asked, the relationship is already in trouble. The reason for this is because society has taught us this: if things don't go "my" way, if it doesn't make "me" happy, if "I'm" not happy, then "I" can walk away. This is taught especially with marriage. Fighting for marriage is almost a thing of the past. Before I go any deeper, I want to give this disclaimer: There are legitimate reasons for divorce when it comes to marriage, but let's stay on topic.
So, what is love? I Corinthians 13:4-7 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not dishonor evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
Most of us looking for love are ready to be loved because of how good it makes us feel! Being loved feels awesome. Don't you agree? However, many are not ready to love according to its' true meaning, as described above. The above shows true love is not easy to give. It is selfless. Being selfless means putting our wants and needs aside to meet someone else's. True love is not about ourselves, but about others. It means giving without expecting anything in return. It means allowing a person to love in their own way and not getting angry when they don't meet our expectations. When our spouse, boyfriend, fiance', makes a mistake or does something we don't like, be quick to forgive and don't bring it back up every time something similar comes up. The ability to love selflessly is a daily challenge that needs to be practiced and lived out daily. I'm preaching to myself too, y'all. If we remind ourselves that we are not perfect, we each make mistakes and we say and do things that our spouse, etc. may not like, then we can love them freely as well as others around us in the way we are meant to. If you do this and you have found someone who loves you unconditionally; you both have true love. This is the love that lasts.
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